Fashom: What do you do for a living?
Dessidre: I am a journalist by profession. I work as the Culture Editor at Times Internet.
Fashom: What’s your general sense of style / fashion like? Do you stick to a particular kind of dressing – either feminine or masculine or do you experiment with both?
Dessidre: I have a feminine chic style which I sometimes experiment with, in terms of silhouettes, fits, and prints. I sometimes go for a lot of sweatshirts with tights and sneakers when I’m trying to tone down the fashion and just keep it casual.
Fashom: How much do you think the social norms and mainstream media have constrained people from expressing themselves through their looks?
Dessidre: I think more than social norms and mainstream media, today, a lot gets inhibited because of social media (as strange as that may sound). People don’t want to be seen a certain way because they’re afraid of being snapped, uploaded online and being criticized by the digital audience.
Fashom: How did you overcome such constraints? What can people do to overcome these constraints?
Dessidre: There has to be a strong sense of self wherein one understands that no one has the right to criticize how certain people look or want to look. It’s a very personal choice that comes from a very personal space. When people understand that they don’t need external validation on the way they look, they will automatically overcome such constraints.
Fashom: What inspires or motivates you the most in your life?
Dessidre: Hope motivates me to never give up because the next best thing might just be just around the corner and we may never really know unless we wait it out.
Fashom: How do you deal with criticism from others?
Dessidre: I don’t. Unless it’s a mentor, someone I respect, or someone who has seen my personal growth and been around, I walk it off.
Fashom: What was the best advice you ever received about being true to yourself?
Dessidre:“You cannot be honest to others unless you’re honest to yourself.” It was my inner voice to me.
Fashom: The goal of Fashom is to encourage people to be themselves and break all cultural stereotypes. Having used the app, what is your opinion about Fashom, what do you think we can do better?
Dessidre: I think Fashom is a great platform for people who are different and know how to celebrate their individualities, to showcase themselves to the world.
Fashom: Any message you would like to send out to the world?
Dessidre: No one will stick around long enough for you, except you. So whatever you do, be sure that it’s what you want to do and who you want to be.